Why putting kids in the middle of parents drama will make you question EVERYTHING!

Depending on the age, sometimes kids can not determine which "secrets" will break their families apart.  Honestly, that's too much pressure to place on our kids.

When I was younger, I was the second child to four children.  I had the best relationship with my parents than everyone else and was often the peacemaker and secret-keeper in the family.  I grew up in a great household; there was no violence, I never heard my parents argue or yell at each other, and it was a pretty easy-going environment.

However, there were moments that my dad would tell me things and asked me not to tell my mom.  Unknown to him, she also told me things not to disclose to my dad.  It was a heavy burden to bear as I had no idea which of these "secrets" would tear my family apart.  

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So I kept everything to myself and did not disclose those secrets to anyone.  At times, I felt honored that they each trusted me with their secrets, but it was a heavy load for a child to bear most of the time.

As a mom, it is important to allow our kids to be kids and to make sure that we are not loading them with our burdens to assist in carrying.  If you need to disclose something that is bothering you, trust in an adult that does not know your spouse.  

As your little secret may be tiny to you, but it may be hard for your child to decipher if this "secret" will cause an argument or a break-up.  Take it from me, speak to an adult or trusted friend, and let's leave our kids out of grown folks' business.

Until next time Mom Tribe, stay well.

~Pamela